1. And that’s when I know it’s over. As soon as you start thinking about the beginning, it’s the end.
    — This Is How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz (via matthallock)

    This book.



    I’ve been single for over 8 months now. Independent woman, rarely any hook ups, barely any one night stands. A lot of nights alone, with my ipad, watching reality television shows. A lot of work, a ton of Crossfit, a couple solo movie trips. And I’m…okay with it. Well, most times. I’m the most healthy and the most sane when I’m alone, especially this time around. I do things for me everyday. I live my life on my own schedule. But lately I’ve been having those creeping moments of loneliness a little more frequently.

    The other day I was out with a friend and was a little tipsy after ~one cocktail~ and spun around in my chair and blurted out “but wHAT IF IM ALONE FOREVER?”

    What if I never meet someone who makes me THAT happy again? What if I’ll always just be happier and better alone?

    And my friend turned to me and said, “You know, it’s what you do when you’re alone that’s important. What are you going to do to make this period in your life worthwhile? That’s what matters right now. Not when you’ll meet someone new”

    And I realized just how right he was. I should be more grateful of my time alone. More proud I am of what I’m accomplishing and the person I’ve grown into over the past few months. Right now, that should be enough for me. And it is.

    Love always,



    If a guy says he’s a nice guy, he’s not a nice guy. If a girl says she’s not crazy, she’s crazy.

    If the dude you fall for ends up being a coke dealer, abandon ship ASAP. If the next dude you fall for ends up being a coke dealer, it’s time to lock yourself in your room for a very long time and think what horrible, terrible decisions you’ve made to end up here.

    No instagramming first dates. Ever. EVER.

    If someone won’t meet you at a location halfway between the two of you for a first date, then they’ll never meet you halfway on anything. I promise you.

    You know those friends that you only get wasted with and never even spend time with sober? Yeah, maybe it’s time to revaluate those “friendships”.

    Do something new at least once a week. Check out the latest exhibit at the museum, take a writing class, hang out at a new coffee shop, anything. Life is too short to be lived on repeat.

    Maybe instead of being that nasty person who says rude things and upsets people, you could instead make a conscious effort to be that genuinely nice person who turns someone’s day around. Just a thought. It’s a lot easier than you think.

    Be kind to yourself. You can either be your own best friend of your own worst enemy. It’s your choice.

    Love you,




    1) Go for a walk with a friend.
    2) Go for a walk alone.
    3) Take a long shower. Showers can be life-altering.
    4) Clean your room. If you’re anything like me when I’m upset, it probably really needs it.
    5) Read a book.
    6) Paint your nails bright red.
    7) Watch Pretty Woman.
    8) Drink iced tea.
    9) Catch up with an old friend.
    10) Be EXTRA nice to people.
    11) Make something.
    12) Light candles.
    13) Work out like crazy.
    14) Do yoga.
    15) Eat clean.
    16) Write ANYTHING- a list, a letter, a novel.
    17) Make plans. Big or small. Give yourself something to look forward to.
    18) Cry (sometimes you just need to let it all out).
    19) Stay busy.
    20) Try something new.
    21) Remember how far you’ve come.
    22) Listen to the music you listened to growing up.
    23) Hydrate.
    24) Watch Louis CK.
    25) Find a dog. Pet it.
    26) Remember it can always get worse.
    27) Remember it will always get better.

    Love you,



    1) The only way to know if a guy REALLY actually likes you is if he sends you a good morning text. This says more than any bouquet of flowers ever could.

    2) If you are too tired to go to the gym, but not too tired to go to the bar, you are not actually too tired to go to the gym. So you should probably go.

    3) On that note, sometimes you really fucking deserve that slice of pizza/chocolate milkshake/bag of chips. Spoil yourself every once in a while. You’ve earned it.

    4) If someone disses your blog, but still reads your blog, then that means you’re doing a damn good job.

    5) As much as you want to fuck the owner of the bar next to your apartment, you probably shouldn’t fuck the owner of the bar next to your apartment. No matter how attractive and cool and awesome he is… right?

    6) A true friend is the one who drags you out of the bar by your hair when you spot your ex-lover and start debating whether or not you should say hello.

    7) When life starts to get rough, just remember that you are young and beautiful and capable and anything is possible. I don’t know a single successful, truly happy person that didn’t make a handful of mistakes along the way.

    Shout out to all of the emails I’ve been getting lately. You guys really are the greatest readers I could ever ask for.

    Yours always and only,